What is FETBO?

FETBO is a simple but powerful tool I teach in the Boss Yourself First community and in Three Permissions. It helps you pause and notice what’s really happening when life gets intense. The letters stand for:

• Facts – What is objectively true in this situation?
• Emotions – What feelings are present? (No judgment, just naming them.)
• Thoughts – What beliefs or stories are running through your mind?
• Behaviors – How are you acting, or tempted to act, because of those thoughts and feelings?
• Outcomes – What results are you getting, or could get, if you continue on this path?

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FETBO gives you a framework to shift from autopilot to awareness. Instead of being swept up by stress or self-doubt, you can step back, sort what’s going on, and choose how to respond.

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It’s one of the most practical ways to practice self-leadership - taking charge of your inner world so you can show up with clarity, courage, and compassion in the outer one.

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If you want a deeper dive, check out my book Three Permissions: Allowing Yourself to Feel, Fail, and Fly on the Path to Success. FETBO is one of the most practical tools for self-leadership - helping you make sense of what’s really happening in the moment so you can respond with clarity and intention instead of reacting on autopilot.

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